“I hope you don’t get what you want in life, because then you are Fucked.”
Martin Tobias
For over 20 years, this phrase has been one of my guiding principles. Today I am softening it.
Why soften it? I want my guiding principles to be in the positive frame, not the negative. While this has been great click bait and jolts the system, it does so by triggering a visceral emotional reaction: “What do you mean not get what I want? Isn’t that the point of life?” That reaction is why I like the principle, but I don’t want to relive the negative shock every time I hear it.
While I haven’t figured out exactly how to reframe this principle, something along the lines of :
- “Process goals are what you want in life”
- Process goals trump outcome oriented goals.
- I hope your goals support your values.
- The [[good life]] is a process not a goal.
Basically, the value of the positive frame in most things I do has risen in my value stack, and I am reframing whatever I can in that way. Give it a try.
